The drive to want to be in relationships is universal. Yet, what we also know is that making relationships work is much more difficult. Over the years I have coached many couples who have sought help in rekindling their relationship. The reasons for seeking help were varied. The most successful were the couples where [...]
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‘You are not listening’ is a common outburst when two people are frustrated with each other. Usually they are trying to discuss something and the interaction has become emotionally charged. Unless they find a way to calm down it becomes hard to find a satisfactory solution to the conflict. That is because when people are emotionally agitated [...] Probably the single biggest factor for not taking action is fear. Fear can show up in many variations. It could be fear of being judged, fear of success, fear of embarrassment, fear of rejection, fear of being alone etc. I can still remember a woman I knew several years ago. She was in midlife [...] As most of you know I believe the most effective way to work on a relationship is to work on self. That is why I focus on building a strong personal foundation. It is when we feel in charge of our own lives that we can objectively and honestly relate with another. When two [...] Couple relationships are more than the two individuals. That is because the relationship becomes a separate entity. Consequently, changes that an individual makes will have an impact on the relationship balance. This is just as true in personal relationships as in work relationships. For instance, if you have a boss who micro manages it [...] Couples start out with great hopes of living ever after. Even if there are problems present somehow they get pushed aside and the hope persists. Sadly, for many it does not work out that way. I have observed common mistakes in this thinking. The first mistake is expecting the exciting falling in love stage [...] Have you taken something another person said to you personally? I am certain that everyone of us has experienced that at some time. I surely have done it. It is a rather common struggle in relationships. Our self-esteem gets hooked and we respond from our emotional vulnerability. Here is a useful tip to remember: [...] I have been writing about changing habits. This got me thinking about the fact that a simple change can produce a profound change in a relationship. Let us suppose that you want to change the way you respond when you feel verbally attacked. The instinctive response is t o get defensive and lash back. [...] I have been participating in the 30 day blog challenge hosted by Dr. Jeanette Cates. Today is the last day and I am writing number thirty-one. This is what the experience has been like for me. Although the challenge was external I had to make the decision to participate and stick to achieving my [...] I am convinced that all of us have dreams inside us that we yearn to fulfill. Yet we can miss out on enjoying life if we do not simultaneously keep our focus on living fully in the present. Last night I saw the movie UP. The lead character is a 78 year old grieving [...] |
 
  
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