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Love Needs to be Nourished

admin — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 18:03:01 +0000

In addition to writing here I have another blog where I give tips and tools for rekindling relationships. Yet together these two make a whole. What determines the strengths of relationships are the two individuals. By building a strong personal foundation we become better partners. The most important factor in loving relationships is the feeling of worth each person has for self. This affects how each treats the other, the demands they make of each other, and how they care for self.

Love is a feeling that can grow or fade. Couples generally are drawn together by sexual attraction. That does not guarantee friendship or compatibility. In order for love to grow it has to be nourished. Think about planting a seed. In order to germinate and grow it needs water, light, and nourishing soil. It is the same with love in relationships, it needs nurturing every single day. Many couples leave love to chance and at some point realize that the relationship needs rekindling. I invite you to visit http://budurl.com/rekindle to see what I am writing about relationships.

Likewise, it is the same for us as individuals. Unless we take good care of ourselves we stop bringing forth our greatness. Did you know that as you strengthen your personal foundation your expectations of yourself and your relationship will be enhanced. You will grow into the person you are capable of being.

Self-Growth: What Kind Of Mindset Do You Have?

Kristina von Rosenvinge — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 18:26:49 +0000

Do you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? I have been fascinated for a long time as to how come some people remain active and involved throughout life and others end up limiting themselves. Recently I have been reading about the groundbreaking ideas on mindset put forth by Dr. Carol Dweck a psychologist at Stanford University. This is what she found upon studying success and achievement:

1. The fixed mindset people believe that their basic qualities like intelligence and talent are fixed traits. They do not develop their intelligence and talents believing that just having them will assure success.

2. The growth mindset people believe that their basic abilities can be developed through hard work. They view intelligence and talent as being the starting point. They are willing to dedicate time and effort to developing their intelligence and talents.

I happen to believe that someone with a fixed mindset can develop a growth mindset when he/she finds a compelling reason to do so. I have been in the people-growing field all of my professional life and have seen over and over how people have been able to take leadership of their own lives. They have shifted their fixed mindset to a growth mindset. The reason for this shift was that they were not happy with how their life was going. They used this unhappiness as a launchpad to embark on the journey of growth. I have known people with a growth mindset who discovered that they could evolve their lives even more. The compelling reason for these mindset shifts has been a deep desire to feel happy, have meaningful relationships, and to make the most of ones abilities and talents.

Blog Talk Radio Interview by Connie Green

Kristina von Rosenvinge — Tue, 12 May 2009 00:36:53 +0000

Today I was interviewed by Connie Ragen Green who is teaching me all about how to create a successful internet business. The focus was on my business which is teaching people how to upgrade their lives and enhance their relationships. I do this by teaching healthy self growth and relationship skills which increase happiness, the ability to deal with whatever life brings, and relationship satisfaction.

What I enjoyed was how freely Connie tied in examples from her life to illustrate the points I was making. Anyone who listens to this interview will get a good idea as to what it means to increase your emotional fitness. We talked about options one has when one is in a personal or work situation which squelches people. We got into a lengthy sequence on what to do when ones feelings are hurt. I shared specific tools that will help people get back in control and figure out what action to take.

You can listen to this interview here.

I would love to hear your comments and suggestions about our interview.

Open Yourself to Your Potential

Kristina von Rosenvinge — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:50:20 +0000

Self-growth and relationship secret #1 Open Yourself to Your Potential

In order to grow as individuals we have to open ourselves to our potential. We always know that we are capable of being more because there is a restless voice inside us that keeps reminding us. We stop growing when we ignore this voice or rationalize it away. What keeps so many of us from taking action to reach our potential? The answer is the demon: FEAR that invariably accompanies change. What we have to accept is that growth is always accompanied by a fear of the unknown that tries to hold us back. Learning to live with the contradiction becomes the key to bringing forth our potential.

How to bring forth your potential:

1. Get in touch with what you want for yourself
My friend Mary was unhappy with all the demands placed on her by others. Yet because she was a very giving person she found it hard to say no. The result was that she became resentful, felt hopelessly stuck, and bored. When she did the exercise of getting in touch with what she wanted for herself at first she came up with nothing. At last she zeroed in on a daydream she had held on to for the past 25 years. She wanted to write a book for the young adult audience and even had a plot figured out.

2. Trust your daydreams and inklings
The reason they exist is to nudge you to bring out your potential. If you don’t have anything specific in mind let that be OK. Appreciate your strength and trust that it will become clearer with time. My mother in her 80s was feeling useless. She tapped into her abilty to crochet and started designing and creating individual afghans for all her great grandchildren. The doing gave her enormous vitality and pleasure. My neighbor is passioned about creating habitats to attract varieties of birds into our neighborhood.

3. Take action on what you want for yourself
It is by taking action that you are really open to bringing forth your potential. Others may question what you want to do, you will get scared, but by keeping at it you will feel energized and engaged with your life. The road is invariably messy and uncertain but the reward is that you will feel proud of yourself.