Relationships work best if each partner takes responsibility for his/her own growth.  By doing that  each is free to give to and grow their relationship.  Neither one has the burden of holding up the other instead each is autonomous and they are together because they feel that life is richer as a result.

There is no getting away from it we are always growing.  Inside us is a blueprint that propels us through the growth stages from childhood into adulthood and beyond.  Some of what happens to us in life is out of our control.  Yet we have control over how we grow emotionally and how we take care of our minds and bodies. Likewise we generally have a  choice in what partners we choose to share our life with.

Here are 7 skills that aid self-mastery:

1. Just thinking about what you want doesn’t get you what you want.

2. It is only by doing that you move forward.

3. Learn to trust your inklings. You know best what is right for you.

4. Unhook yourself from what you think others need and expect from you.

5. Stop comparing yourself to others.

6. Make a commitment to yourself that you are willing to put time and energy into going after your dreams.

7. Take action in the present and you will get to where you want to go.