I have just come back from a fabulous trip to Brazil visiting Iguazzu Falls, the Panatanal and Rio de Jainero. While in Rio I had to seek medical care because I discovered that I had a tick embedded on my thigh no doubt brought along from the Safari excursion in the Wetlands. Since [...]
Each one of us deep inside wants to feel good about who we are. Simply put we want to accept, respect and love ourselves and have people in our lives who appreciate us just for who we are.
One of my friends had been struggling for years with being overweight. It bothered her greatly. She wanted [...]
Have you taken something another person said to you personally? I am certain that everyone of us has experienced that at some time. I surely have done it. It is a rather common struggle in relationships. Our self-esteem gets hooked and we respond from our emotional vulnerability. Here is a useful tip to remember: treat [...]
I just wrote an article at my other site: http://www.budurl.com/rekindle. It is about how our relationships organize us into repetitive patterns.
Have you ever noticed that after living with someone for a while that conflicts and a good bit of conversation becomes repetitive? I chatted today about the patterns we get into with friends when we [...]
I read an interesting observation today stressing a big drawback of living together before marriage. The reason given was that many people begin to live together before they have had a chance to experience what it is like to be independent. As a result they miss out on the growing up step of standing on [...]
Has this happened to you? You are in a good mood and then your partner says something and “puff” your mood changes. This is the relationship effect. It can show up in many different ways but invariably is reflects abdication of control over oneself to someone else.
Let me share an example. Here is the scene. [...]
Most couples that I have worked with will initially say that they do not communicate. I see their frustration with each and feel their hope that if only their partner would make some changes he/she would be fine. It doesn’t quite work that way. The solution lies in each person taking responsibility for their own [...]
A friend of mine who is an action taker has as her byline: “Saying nothing sometimes says the most.” She gets involved in causes she believes in because to say nothing to her means she does not care. As I look back on my life I can see that there have been many times when [...]
Most couples who are struggling with their relationship will say that the problem is communication. It looks like communication is the issue but the difficulty generally is more than words. Indeed they are frustrated with their communication but beneath that struggle is the dilemma of not knowing how to create a sense of WE in [...]
In order to be fully engaged in life we have to have energy. Yet a very common refrain that I hear from people is that they do not have enough energy to do what they want to do. So they spend considerable time in passive activities like watching TV or sports. That being the case, [...]