Last weekend I spent three days in Las Vegas in an immersion internet marketing course taught by Jeanette Cates and Connie Ragen Green. With their superb help I was able to set up a membership site and learned how to put up a product for sale. You can find my book: Rekindle Your Relationship at http://www.relationshiphelpforyou.com.
Rekindling is all about making changes. Unless there is a willingness to look at self and take new action nothing changes. This week I coached a couple in their late fifties. They have a relationship that is joyless and very routine. Although they travel and do interesting things there is no warmth and joy between them.
Since both wanted a happier relationship they had to start by being willing to take action and make a behavioral change. The action step had to be small enough so that it was doable.
Here are two thoughts to hold at the same time.
- The big picture is the goal “We want a happier relationship”
- The action step is taking a step toward the goal.
The couple above made the following decision for their first step. He decided to say hello to his wife, give her a little kiss, and linger a few minutes with her when he came home from work. She decided to stop what she was doing, actually look at him, and appreciate his overtures to connect.
Change has to be doable and successful upon one can add many more steps until the goal is achieved.
