Relationship Skill: Validate Yourself

One of the most important skills to learn is how to validate ourselves and others.  We have to really believe that we are not what we do.   We are valuable because of who we are.

I am reminded of this lovely young woman who agonized about the soup she was preparing for a  get together of work colleagues..  Her anxiety about what others would think was sky high.  At some point I said to her ” You are not your soup”.   As she began to relax she was able to remind herself that she volunteered to bring the soup because it was always a favorite.  Besides these were all people that she cared about so the task for her became to enjoy the other people.  The soup was a success. The best part was that by showing interest in the others she had a great time.  No doubt we can recall situations where our anxiety about ourselves became our preoccupation and we lost sight of  focusing on others.

Tip of the day:

You are not what you do, you are valuable because of who you are.