I have just been listening to Tiger Woods who gave a press conference. This time he really seemed to understand the emotional ramifications of his behavior both for himself and for his marriage. His infidelity was a betrayal of their marital commitment. Only time will tell if his wife and he can repair their marriage.
A few days ago I read an article in The Washington Post about a couple who have been married twenty-five years. They talk about the ups and downs including her cancer. They think that their marriage thrived because of their firm commitment to their wedding vows. Over the years they learned to trust that what ever came their way they would get through it together. He would be there for her and she would be there for him. They see themselves still evolving as individuals and feel that the best years of their marriage are still ahead of them.
Being married 43 years I can only concur with the couple above that it takes a commitment to each other to get through the challenges that life brings. The idea that we were in this together was for me a beacon to hold up in front of me. It meant not only thinking of my own needs and desires but also what was best for US.
From listening to Tiger it looks like he is growing emotionally as an individual. If his relationship with his wife survives will depend very much on each ones willingness and desire to rekindle trust and love in their marriage.
