The right mindset does not guarantee anything. It is a great starting off point. Without effort and taking action change does not happen. Yet when we believe that effort will make a difference then we are much more likely to take action because we love to experience our personal growth.
I have seen people grow when they changed fixed mindset beliefs . I am reminded of a man I worked with who at first did not believe he could change what he thought were ingrained personality traits. The problem was that he expressed anger in a way that frightened his wife and children. He was convinced that the way he handled anger was a personality trait that he had no control over. Turns out that his father had a similar anger management problem which he also had always explained as ” that is just how the men in the family are”.
My explanation to him was that it was also possible that this was not a personality characteristic from birth but it could be learned behavior. Once this man opened himself up to learning new effective skills for expressing his feelings he really bought into the growth mindset. He had been convinced that he had no control over his anger but his fear that he might lose his family became the incentive for learning new ways of dealing with his anger.
It took effort to learn new skills. Habits take time and consistent effort to change. The warm loving response from his wife and children made it all worth while.
