A big part of communication is how we talk to ourselves. Our inner dialogue goes on all the time. It is there were we are aware of our insecurities, anxieties, joys, strengths and weaknesses. What we share on the outside is greatly determined by how safe we feel within ourselves.
Many of the messages we say to ourselves are outdated. We form an internal picture of who we are and operate from that. A good example is Molly, a very successful professional woman, who at 58 was still feeling inadequate on the inside. Professionally she trusted herself but in her personal life she had difficulty keeping friends and forming relationships. Having been raised with a lot of put downs her inner dialogue still operated from the past.
In order to grow in emotional fitness we have to be willing to examine our internal speaking habits and be willing to update what we say to and about ourselves.
