Couples start out with great hopes of living ever after. Even if there are problems present somehow they get pushed aside and the hope persists. Sadly, for many it does not work out that way. I have observed common mistakes in this thinking.
The first mistake is expecting the exciting falling in love stage to continue indefinitely. That is not understanding that love goes through stages. The initial falling in love stage is exciting. That is when the focus is on the partner: wanting to please the loved one and to know all about him/her. Both people are generous with showing love and interest towards each other.
The second mistake is not accepting that the falling in love stage has to change. There are specific tasks that couples have to handle like how do we support ourselves, how do we handle food, how do we deal with relatives, how or if to have children. and how to handle intimacy. In the falling in love stage there are far fewer demands on the relationship.
The next time I write I will talk about three other mistakes that couples make.
