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Control in relationships gets complicated. There are several ways that control affects relationships. In healthy relationships it is important for each person to be in control of self. That means that each takes responsibility for his/her own feelings and thinking. This kind of control increases self-worth and enhances the well being of the relationship. Another way [...] When couples want to strengthen their marriage they describe their current difficulty as “we just don’t communicate”. Indeed on the surface that appears to be the number one problem; however, there is usually something else going on that makes it hard for them to communicate. That something else has to do with where each has his/her [...] After yoga class a friend and I started speaking about the effects of change on relationships. I mentioned that whenever one person takes a new step at first the spouse usually is supportive. It is when the change starts affecting him/her that re-balancing becomes necessary. My friend said she new exactly what I was talking about. [...] Whenever I use the term UPGRADE YOUR RELATIONSHIP I get interesting reactions. Some people do not seem to have much of an idea as to what I am talking about. Others will say that is just what they want for themselves. We all interact with people on a daily basis either live, on the phone, or [...] Recently I was asked if I thought that menopause freed women up or caused trouble. What a perceptive question since the answer is that both things happen. It is not an either/or. The most tumultuous time for women are the few years (anywhere from 2 to 10) prior to menopause where most women experience a variety [...] A growth mindset is good for relationships. Actually, I think, that it is essential to developing healthy relationships. When two individuals begin a relationship they have the task of learning to also be a twosome. Not an easy task considering that each person comes with unique life experiences and each is filled with expectations for [...] Most couples who are struggling with their relationship will say that the problem is communication. It looks like communication is the issue but the difficulty generally is more than words. Indeed they are frustrated with their communication but beneath that struggle is the dilemma of not knowing how to create a sense of WE in [...] An artist friend of mine is working on a series about walls going up when relationships end. I will be eager to see how she depicts that in her paintings. As we talked I said to her that so much of my work is helping people take down emotional walls that have been in their [...] When one person in a relationship starts making changes and the other doesn’t there is an effect on the balance of the relationship. Whenever I am coaching someone at some point this balance struggle arises. This does not just happen to the people I coach but it is a universal phenomenon. As one person starts [...] In order to be fully engaged in life we have to have energy. Yet a very common refrain that I hear from people is that they do not have enough energy to do what they want to do. So they spend considerable time in passive activities like watching TV or sports. That being the case, [...] |
 
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