Relationship Rebuilding

My writing here has been at a stand still.   The reason is that I have been part of a 30 day challenge to blog daily for the past month.  I am proud to say that I and 49 others  completed the challenge.  The challenge was set by my mentor Connie Ragen Green. You can [...]

Making a Commitment

I have just been listening to Tiger Woods who  gave a press conference.  This time he really seemed to understand the emotional ramifications of his behavior both for himself and for his marriage.  His infidelity was a betrayal of their marital commitment.  Only time will tell if his wife and he can repair their [...]

Do You Have a Growth Mindset?

A growth  mindset makes it possible to keep growing throughout life.  People with a growth mindset believe that their talents,  intelligence and personality can be developed at any time.  They enjoy learning and discovering new dimensions to themselves.  They do not shy away from challenges and look at life as a journey.

Recently I [...]

When Trust Is Lost

I lost trust in the reliability of my car. This may seem an unusual way to talk about losing trust.  Last week I could not shift out of park nor could I take the key out. I had the car repaired and after a few trips the problem recurred but was worse.   After [...]

Expectations

“You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them” is a quote by Michael Jordan.  It is evident that he expected a lot from himself and worked hard to achieve excellence in basketball and life.   I think that expectations are powerful.  I see expectations  as being different from  goals.

When we [...]

Communication and Self-Esteem

Most couples that I have worked with will initially say that they do not communicate. I see their frustration with each and feel their hope that if only their partner would make some changes he/she would be fine.  It doesn’t quite work that way.  The solution lies in each person taking responsibility for their [...]

It Takes Boldness and Commitment

One of my favorite quotes is  “Whatever you can do, or dream you can; begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it” Goethe .  Recently I found out that there is a whole other sentence that comes before this quote which states: “Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one [...]

Find Your Passion

I have been fortunate in my work life to be able to do what I enjoy.   My passion is helping people empower their lives.  It is a good feeling to see people  grow in valuing who they are  and grow in their ability to deal effectively with whatever life brings.

Although over the years [...]

Why Self-Growth and Relationship Skills?

I have been asked as to why on this site I stress  both self-growth and relationship skills.  Why not just focus on one or the other.  In my mind they are linked.

I think  that it is through  self-growth  that positive changes occur in  marriages/relationships. The stronger one’s self-worth (the result of self-growth) the [...]

Rekindle Your Relationship

There is no magic answer to rekindling a relationship. There is no one thing that will quickly turn things around.  Yet many couples are able to achieve a new closeness in their relationship.  You may well ask ” how do they do it?”

After helping many couples rekindle their relationship I have found that [...]